tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22481322.post3158861516399776895..comments2023-11-03T04:52:54.090-04:00Comments on Life with Coco and Gigi... and Jack-Jack too!: Will it be *easier*?Kristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08397695241403505531noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22481322.post-29505131537097464202012-02-10T19:41:40.609-05:002012-02-10T19:41:40.609-05:00Anon - You brought up some great points. I can tru...Anon - You brought up some great points. I can truly see how it could go either way. We have learned, through life experiences, how to laugh off the little stuff and only pay attention to what matters. Hoping that's what happens when Baby shows up. :DKristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08397695241403505531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22481322.post-80359557907734258732012-02-10T12:25:49.935-05:002012-02-10T12:25:49.935-05:00I have one kid so I cannot speak from personal exp...I have one kid so I cannot speak from personal experience, but anecdotally, I see both scenarios--have a cousin who added a third and it has really balanced their family and everyone is so happy and content and lovely--have a friend who added a third and she and her husband are drowning, she actually told me yesterday, as she rocked her baby in her arms, that she has regrets. If that is what she is willing to admit, I can only imagine what she is truly feeling. I think it has to do with "perfection" and "guilt" and "partnership". The people who want things to be perfect, and will feel guilty and inadequate when they are not, and have a partner who does not do his (or her) fair share, will drown. Those who can blow stuff off and revel in the chaos, and have partners who are present physically and emotionally, will probably thrive. Sometimes it is a conscious choice one can make and sometimes it takes years of behavioral training to let go of perfection and sometimes one never really can no matter how hard one tries--that need for perfection and propensity toward guilt and inadequacy always exist. I don't know you but I suspect you are able to let things go and laugh it off, and are less concerned about being perfect than you are about being happy. And your husband seems very supportive and involved, so I suspect this baby will be a blessing in your home and not a burden.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com