Change

It occurred to me today that there is this common theme when you talk about having children. You hear over and over again how you never know what it's like til you have kids. And I sometimes hear from people how I shouldn't want kids or should think twice before having kids because my life will change. Even Johnson & Johnson reminds us in their commercials how 'having a baby changes everything'.

When I hear this I often think about how such a small proportion of the population lives through the "changes" that come with infertility. In some respects these changes are so much more impacting than having a child. I am not naive enough to think that having a new baby in the house is a walk in the park, but how much fun is the process of TTC. I would easily trade a few sleepless night because my child is crying than sleepless nights spent crying and pleading with God to just let me get pg. I would love to replace the change in schedule with all of my doctors appointments, blood work and ultrasounds. Take away by heartbreak and give me the stress of worrying over a little one.

People will sometimes jokingly ask, are you sure you want kids. It doesn't bother me when its family giving me a ribbing, but when it's other people it wears on my nerves. I always want to smack those people, but today I heard the best response. So when someone says, "are you sure you want kids it will change your whole life". My new standard response will be "and what makes you think I don't want everything to change." Perfection.