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How are you feeling???

In addition to all the wonderful congratulations we have been getting lately, people always ask me how I am feeling. I always question whether I should just say fine (as most people do in polite conversation) or be honest. I have opted instead to go with the general response of "miserable, but isn't that how I am supposed to feel."

I just can't help but wonder if this type of response is something irritating to some people. Most women, especially those who have been through pregnancy, laugh and make some comment about remember how that was. I just can't help but hear this little voice in the back of my head saying "God I hated women like you when you were still trying to get pregnant." I guess that little part of me will never go away.

4 comments:

Meg 10:23 AM  

On my crappy days I would respond by saying "Today is not a good day. Ask me again tomorrow." People would usually smile and say that they could relate and had those kind of days too. Hang in there!

Anonymous 10:51 AM  

I myself went through 2 1/2 years of infertility but I was fortunate to get pregnant with IUI's. Your journey with infertility will now always be a part of you. You struggle now with complaining about you sickness but once your babies arrive you will struggle and feel quilty for thinking parenthood is so hard even though you wanted it so badly. Since going through infertility I realized I dealt with a new baby and all the feeling surrounding being a new mother differently than my friends who got pregnant easily.

Congratulations!

Nickie 11:40 AM  

I think it's normal to want to keep your answers considerate of those still in the trenches and I think yours is doing just that. It's honest but not complaining. You shouldn't have to put on a happy face all the time just b/c you were lucky enough to get out of the trenches. But it's great that you're still aware of how your honesty can be perceived by others.

Now, if you go around complaining constantly and bemoaning how this is not what you expected, well, then, ppl are gonna get irritated. LOL I doubt that's going to happen anytime soon.

Sara 11:01 PM  

I'm still dealing with IF, but when I ask pregnant people how they are feeling, I genuinely want to know the answer. If I'm feeling fragile, then I don't ask. I'm glad that you haven't developed pregnancy amnesia, but that doesn't mean that you don't have the right to admit to some bad days. I hope you feel better soon.

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