It is hard to explain sometimes why feeling validated is so important to a person (especially a female person). When someone validates you and all that you do it can be enough to power you through another week of the mundane. One of the most validating things that people say to me these days (and I know it sounds stupid) is "I don't know how you do it". Those 7 words are like music to my ears. I guess because when people say it is both acknowledges how hard it is to raise two infants and it also says that I am doing at least a decent job. I know I am a darn good Mom and a damn good MOM (mom of multiples) but hearing it doesn't hurt. I guess those 7 words also serve as a reminder that I am getting to do something special that not all Moms get to do. Having twins is like a special gift that not everyone gets to experience.
It amazes me how I never really needed validating until I had kids and then suddenly it becomes important to have that feeling. I guess lack of sleep, not enough eating and screaming kids does something to a person. ;>)
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Oh Kristen! I know exactly what you mean. Although I only have one (and I know that I'm a great mom) I still want to hear it too. I like to hear it from my husband but more importantly I feel the need to hear it from my mom. I can tell just from reading about the heart wrenching decisions you have to make and how much you worry about your little girls that you are a damn good mom/MOM! You go girl! :-)
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