As I think you all know the situation with my sisters pregnancy is anything but good. She is in an uncommitted relationship (and she wishes the guy would commit... planned pregnancy, you think?), just moved out of my parents house, doesn't know what she wants to do with this baby and can't seem to keep her life together. Needless to say she is a bit of a mess. Her doctors tell her she is measuring behind so they want to do an amnio. The "sperm donor" says if anything is wrong he doesn't want the baby... which makes me sick. Sicker than I can express. After everything we went through with Abby when I was pregnant to hear anyone say this hurts me, literally hurts me... anyway, I digress.
So the conversation has come up between my sister and my Mom about whether or not she should allow someone more capable to adopt the baby should something be wrong. AKA, me and Brian. We offered to adopt every child she has ever carried. I know that makes us sound like baby stealers or something but you have to keep in mind my sister is not stable. She suffers from serious mental illness and can barely care for herself let alone a child. So the offer is out there. I know it won't happen. I know that she is too selfish to do the right thing. I don't even care if it's me. This child would be better off with parents who will love it and care for it and not resent it.
I just feel so helpless. I have to sit back and watch this train wreck and there is nothing I can do. No way I can help. We barely speak to each other. We don't have a whole hell of a lot to say. I just wish there was something I could do to make my sister better and make this unborn child's life better.
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Damn my friend. I wish that there was something you could do. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys..
Well, you do a whole heck of a lot of your other nephews and niece so I can only assume you will do the same for this one. I think the desire to want to adopt this baby is noble and good, but as you can probably imagine, even if you became legal parents of this baby, your sister problem would not be solved. In fact, it might be worsened. It's hard to both want to love an unborn child but also wish it was never conceived at the same time. Very conflicting. You are in my prayers.
~Anon C
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