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Why all the pressure?

Why as mothers, do we (I realize I am assuming I am not alone in this... but I'm pretty sure I'm not) put so much pressure on ourselves. I try not to sweat everything I do with, feed to or say to my kids. That being said I feel like when it comes to even small decisions I put myself under a microscope. Yesterday was day 5 of the dreaded "Nap Strike". I am frustrated because I am 100% certain that they are not ready to give them up yet. I just know it. So I spent the better part of the afternoon brainstorming ways to "preserve the nap". By about 5:30 I had spent about four hours brainstorming, coming up with everything from splitting them into different rooms, waking them up super early, keeping them up super late, backing up their nap an hour to making them run laps around the yard all morning today. Then I stopped myself and asked "why is this such a big deal???" In the moment it feels like one but is it? Really??

Probably not, in the grand scheme of things. Why do I put so much pressure on myself to figure these things out. I have done it in so many instances in the past and I look back now and laugh. I just about got an ulcer over when to stop torturing myself with the "breast feeding experiment" (after two bouts of mastitis and boobs that made nothing more than 2 ounces of milk every few hours). I pushed myself to high blood pressure with the "which bottles are best" debacle. Why do I lose so much sleep over things that are so small?

I guess it's important to us, as mothers. It is our work, our responsibility, our entire world. What they eat, watch, play, do, etc. is almost all up to me. That in itself is a lot of pressure. I think I really need to remember to take a deep breath once in a awhile and chillax!


Michelle 8:28 AM  

I don't have any answers...but rest assured that I am the EXACT SAME WAY! Then I start stressing over how much I'm stressing. It's awful.

Kristen 9:09 AM  

M - Glad I am not alone. ;D

The Karkins Family 9:16 AM  

You're definitely right that you're not alone... I'm assuming though that God made women the way we are so our kids are well taken care of! At least we're not like sea turtles who leave their babies to fend for themselves! :-)

BTW: I love the new profile picture!!

Kristen 9:40 AM  

Thanks about the picture. It was time I found a picture that I was in that I didn't hate. :D

Danielle 5:23 PM  

I bet most of us are the same way, I am now in the midst of the get-my-3.5-year-old-to-eat stage ... trying every trick and recipe to get this little boy to eat veggies. Last time it was behavior and I am sure it will be something else in no time. It drives us all crazy and when we look back we realize that it wasn't as bad as we have envisioned in our heads! (potty training, moving to bed from crib, etc) Great post!



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Both of our girls struggle with some disabilities but that won't keep us down. Each day has it's own brand of insanity but we love it. Most days I am more monkey wrangler than mother but I do the best I can. Todays goal - getting to tomorrow.

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