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Why I am infertile

For those who have been with me from the beginning you know all about my Infertility (IF) history. You know why we needed to do IVF and what it took to get there. For those of you who are newer I thought I would share a little bit about why we are "infertile" and our journey to have the girls (in the next post).

We began trying to conceive after being married for five years. We were very busy helping raise our niece and nephews at the time so having kids wasn't something we were in a huge hurry to do. Cycle after cycle nothing happened and after about 6 months I started to worry. We were young and healthy and come from families with no issues with infertility.

I started doing some reading and began charting. I quickly realized that we were doing everything right so it might be time to look into getting help. At that age an IF doctor doesn't want to see you until you have ben trying to conceive (TTC) for at least a year... so we waited.

When our 12th cycle came and went we met our first reproductive endocrinologist. We were 25 and 27 and looked like babies compared to the couples at our clinic. The doctor talked us through the process of testing and procedures and over the course of the next several months we were poked, prodded, tested and retested. We came to learn that our IF was a dual problem. I was diagnosed with PCOS and Insulin Resistance. My husband was diagnosed with low sperm motility, morphology and count. NOT what we wanted (or expected) to hear. We figured it would be one of us but BOTH OF US??? What were the chances.

We now know that had it not been for infertility treatments we would very likely never have children. We heard so many people tell us to "relax" or "take a vacation" or "just stop trying" and "THEN IT WOULD HAPPEN". Man how I hated that! You can't really explain to people enough that for some couples it can't JUST HAPPEN. It will never JUST HAPPEN.

Even still I hear all the time from people about some couple they know who did IVF to have a child and later became pregnant. While I wish that could happen for us the chances are slim to none.

So that's why we can't have kids on our own. It sucks. Obviously it's easier now with two kids but it still sucks. Deciding to have more children should be more about space and energy and timing than getting together the money and being able to survive the treatments. Such is life...

5 comments:

Anonymous 10:43 PM  

I have followed your blog since the beginning (originally read your posts on Fertility Friend). I am a local mother of BG twins (4/11/07) that were conceived with lots and lots of help. I too have a diagnosis of PCOS sans the metabolic issues. I am inspired from your journey for a third. Good luck! Kara

Kristen 8:24 AM  

Kara - Thanks for sharing! Are you in NJ?

Anonymous 11:55 PM  

Yes....Voorhees

Kristen 8:10 AM  

How cool! Maybe we should get together some time!

Anonymous 9:07 PM  

Absolutely! Karahaefele@hotmail.com

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Over 8 years we have struggled through 3 IUI's, 6 rounds of IVF, several RE's, hundreds of appointments and the loss of three little angels. Now we find ourselves the proud parents of two perfect little girls and a wonderful little boy!!

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