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The biggest transition

I have heard people say that the transition to your first child is the biggest transition you will ever experience. You go from being self-centered and having free time to being consumed by another human being. I have heard other parents argue that adding a second child to the mix is much harder than the first. When you had the first you had one child to two parents (not in our case but you know what I mean). Now when one parent is on their own you are outnumbered.

So what I wonder is what is the biggest transition? Is it to the first? To the second? I ask because I worry. I worry that a third would totally upset the apple cart. I know we could handle it but I wonder how big of a transition it would be.

I am naively banking on the idea that going from having to twins to having a singleton (please God let it be a singleton) would be "easy". (I know, easy... ha!) I am hoping that having done it twice will give me wisdom and experience that I didn't have four years ago. I am hoping we will find out. :D


Plant Girl 11:34 AM  

You already know my answer to this. But OH.MY.WORD! Going from 1 to 2 was exhausting in our household. I felt like I never got a break because as soon as the baby was asleep I was getting a meal for my oldest, doing some sort of craft with her or just tending to whatever she needed. Especially since she was a little bit higher maintenance when we first came home because of the adjustment.

Since you brought 2 home to begin with, it's going to be different. Having only 1 baby may seem like easy street comparatively (in terms of tending to a baby). No matter what though, you'll still have 3 kids to tend to and that's more than you had back in 2007. ;)

Anonymous 1:40 PM  

It will be hard work, but you seem well prepared for it with your existing lifestyle (e.g., helping to raise niece and nephews, having kids with special needs, having siblings with special needs, working from home, etc.). And you love babies, so that's great. And you have a solid marriage, so no fear of that crumbling (which, from my observation, is the number one terrible by product of adding a second. We see marriages fall all around us after second child is added, but maybe they weren't that strong to begin with, who knows.)

You guys want more kids, so this is the only path you can follow, regardless of how hard it will be. If you were on the fence, I would say: STOP, are you crazy!!!! Three is SO MANY!! You will be BROKE and TIRED for a decade!! ;) That is my internal monologue when people push us about having another. LOL

MrsSpock 8:32 AM  

I felt going from one to two was going to be hard- but it really has been easy. There was no learning curve this time with the baby.



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