Life with Coco and Gigi... and Jack-Jack too!

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I don't have two kids

I have figured out how to manage most of the tricky Mom questions that I come across. I have good answers for why Abby is so much smaller than Grace despite them being twins. I have a quick answer for why Abby flaps and why Grace freaks out in the store when the heater noise comes on. The one question I still toil with is a simple one. "How many kids do you have?" Most of the time I say two and move on. But in my head I know how complicated this one is.

I don't have two kids. I have the girls but I also have Genna and Will and Jordan. I have loved them from the moment they were born and I have loved them as my own. I have had the birds and bees discussion. I have had to issue the punishments. I have gotten the hugs and the smiles. I have cleaned up the puke and wiped the butts. I have done the Mom things. I love them as my own.

Yet somehow people just can't understand how two families can co-parent kids the way we do. They don't know understand how I can love all five of them exactly the same. It is incredibly frustrating. It's "normal" for a divorced couple to raise kids in two households but somehow Brian and I sharing the load with my parents is WEIRD.

People talk a good game about diversity. About how every family is different and that's okay. Yet somehow people still look and ask stupid questions and make rude comments about our family. I consider us the lucky ones. Most kids are lucky if they get two parents who love them unconditionally. Our kids each get FOUR. That's downright amazing. In other cultures this type of philosophy, "it take s village", is more widespread. But we get so caught in our own views of a Mom and a Dad. Why not two Moms, two Dads, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and on and on? Can there be any such thing as too much love? I definitely don't think so!

My house is loud and messy and my kids eat me out of house and home... but I love every single second. I'm the luck one.

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Anyone who doesn't get... just doesn't get it. :D

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Over 8 years we have struggled through 3 IUI's, 6 rounds of IVF, several RE's, hundreds of appointments and the loss of three little angels. Now we find ourselves the proud parents of two perfect little girls and a wonderful little boy!!

Both of our girls struggle with some disabilities but that won't keep us down. Each day has it's own brand of insanity but we love it. Most days I am more monkey wrangler than mother but I do the best I can. Todays goal - getting to tomorrow.

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