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OB Appointment

I had my OB appointment yesterday and it went well. My usual doc was out of town so I had to see someone else. I will premise this by saying I did NOT like her. When she came in the room she asked me what had been going on and I told her about CHOP and our follow up with Dr. Gloom and Doom. She then asked me first "so you decided against the amnio?" She said this in a very accusatory manner. Then she asked me "and you decided not to terminate?" I felt like saying what the hell is wrong with you lady. My kids are fine and you are asking me if I am still considering terminating. Are these people like the abortion pushers. I had to keep my patience b/c what good would it do to lose my cool with the woman. I clearly said obviously we would not consider it, and I left that matter alone.

She then ripped into me for my weight gain. I have gained 20 lbs to date and the total for a twin pregnancy should be between 40-50. I thought 20 at more than halfway through was pretty good. After I was made to feel guilty for being hungry all the time she told me that she wanted me to have bloodwork done to rule out a bacterial or other infection as the cause for the dilation. I am thinking how wonderful it is to have yet another test done. At this point they can take their damn tests and shove them. They must get kick backs from the friggin insurance company for all their damn tests. I figure why argue, just take the script, which I did. When we were done I made my next appointment for 3 weeks and when they asked who I wanted to see I clearly said DR. WILLIAMS (my original OB), no more of this lady.

Also forgot to say that yesterday each baby weighed 1 pound and was almost 11 inches. Heartbeats were in the 140's.

5 comments:

Kristin, Rod, and Miss V 9:22 PM  

I thought one of the primary goals of an OB is to make your pregnancy more comfortable, not more UNcomfortable! Good for you for sucking it up and not walking out. I'd have had a tough time with that. How odd that she would say such things to you. Sometimes there is no clear right or wrong answer, just what you believe is best for you and the babies. Good for you for sticking with your decision and not being pressured to change your mind.

Lindsey 10:25 PM  

awww, I'm so sorry the OB made you feel so horrible! She had no right to be so hateful and insensitive. Doctors can be like that though, but stay strong! Don't stress and get plenty of rest. You're going to need it when the girls finally get here :)

Sami 1:29 AM  

I probably would have walked out. Sorry that the ob made you feel awful... I would definitely send a note to the office and make your primary OB aware of the response you got. Seriously - that crap shouldn't be tolerated.

Danielle 10:19 PM  

Don't listen to that doc about weight gain - you look amazing & you have only gained 20 lbs so far -that is great! Hopefully you won't have to see that doctor again!

1L @ UT Law 12:23 AM  

Hi Kristin, my Dad is a perinatologist (he started as an OB) and on the topic of all the testing they do... they really feel an intense pressure to do thorough testing because of malpractice liability. If a baby ends up being born with a chromosomal abnormality, the mother and father often point the finger at the perinatologist and blame him for not running the test. Another way to look at it is that they are just covering all their (and your) bases.

I do agree with you about her questions about the amnio and termination. She definitely could have handled that better!

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