On a recent post an anonymous commenter posted something that got me thinking. She (I assume she is a she ;D) was responding to my thoughts on keeping the girls together. She said "Our society is so "independent" obsessed...it's like we're afraid to admit that humans need each other." I couldn't have said it any better myself.
As a Mom of twins I come across many people who tell me how much they wished they had twins. What I don't experience much are the people like myself who wish they HAD A TWIN. As a mom of twins I get to watch the most incredible bond imaginable. Two souls who have been together since the very first moment of their existence. Two souls who can barely tolerate being apart. Two souls who are so diametrically different but so much the same. It is miraculous.
When it comes to school and other social encounters we get a good deal of flack about keeping our girls together. We hear all the time how keeping them together will "hold them back" or "keep them from forming their own identity". Well, the joke is on them. First, being together pushes them forward every minute of every day. They challenge each other in ways that I never could. Second, I have not yet met a twin pair that was not completely different. My girls are like night and day. They are nothing alike in personality... NOTHING. That is what makes them spectacular.
So, back to my anonymous poster... why is it that we are so obsessed with being "independent" and "different"? Why is depending upon someone other than ourselves so wrong? Why is it so awful that for one more year I want my daughters to be able to look across their classroom and see someone who makes them feel like all is right with the world? Wouldn't we all be better if we had that?
Imagine this; your worst day at work or school or wherever. You did something terribly wrong. You look around the room and instead of seeing a room full of people who don't want to get involves, you spot your soul mate. You spot the one person who has ALWAYS been there. You don't need to say a single word, all you need is a look. And in that look you know that everything i alright. Everything is going to be fine. Would we not all be better if this was our existence???
So if I got to change one thing about my existence I think the next time around I want a twin sister... and I want our mother to keep us together. :D