When I was a young girl I never remember my Mom talking about the way she looked or how she thought she looked. I never heard her ask if she looked fat or berated herself. I don't know if it was a conscious decision (or the fact that she was a toothpick ;D) on her part to keep those kinds of words out of our home.
Recently Brian said something (in front of the girls) about feeling fat. When we got a minute alone we had a conversation about how we want to present the idea of body image to our girls. Yes they are only preschoolers. Yes they have no concept of body image on the larger scale. That being said I believe this is when it begins. This is the age where girls start to idolize Barbie and Princesses and other images of "beauty" that promote an unrealistic body image. I feel like with so much bombardment by the media and the toy companies it is my job to wage war on that type of thinking.
So how do you raise self-loving girls in this kind of world? I can't say I have the answer with absolute certainty. For us I think it means showing the girls that we love ourselves and teaching them to love themselves. I think it means teaching them that God made them and He doesn't make mistakes. I think it means reminding them that every person is beautiful even if they don't fit in the "box" of what it means to be beautiful.
It seems so early to be thinking about these things but I don't want to miss the window. I don't want to overhear my eight year old or ten year old saying she needs to diet. I want them both to feel beautiful every day of their lives.
So the next time you pull up that zipper and the pants don't fit just right, before you speak, remember who might be listening. :D