When I gave birth to twin girls I often wondered how things would turn out. Would I have two girly girls? Two tom boys? One of each? As a child I was a Tom Boy and hated anything girly. I had fears that if I had two girly girls I would have no one to throw a softball to. As it turns out I got one of each. Abby is my little princess. She loves clothes, accessories, princess, ballet, sparkles and glitters. I swear is she could ride a unicorn in a sparkly dress while blowing bubbles for the rest of her life she would. She is bound and determined to become a princess or a fairy some day. I love that she lives in this world but I do lack the experience in princess world to relate.
Grace on the other hand is more like I was. She refuses dresses, wouldn't be caught dead in pink and loves her some Super Heroes. When we go to a fast food places and they give her a "girl" toy she will take it back herself and request the boy toy. When we go clothes shopping she heads right for the boys side of the store. And the only toy aisles she will go down are the truck and super hero clad ones.
Sometimes people make comments. It's usually people of the older generations. Just little things like why would a girl so pretty wear a boys shirt. Or wouldn't she look nice if her hair was neater. I just ignore those things. My Mom let me skip dresses and sparkles so I will do the same for my little girl. As I write this I am wearing a skirt AND earrings so I am guessing Grace will turn out okay.
I think there is something to be said for letting THEM figure out who they want to be. Even at five they need to exert who THEY are.