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What now?

It's been 52 days since saying goodbye to angel baby #4. Fifty two days... but it feels like more. I had hoped that 52 days later I would be so much better than I am. I am still sad. I still cry when I drive alone in the car. I still sometimes look at my kids and just want to sink into the ground. This one isn't easy to get over. I know I will never "get over" it but I would have thought I would be doing a little better by now.

Today I go to my OB to talk about birth control. I never thought birth control would be something I would have to worry about again. Part of me wants to get my tubes tied. Be sure that I never have to live through this again. Part of me wants to do nothing and see what happens. The rational side of me has decided (I think) that I will do something short term for now and give myself more time. I guess I just don't know what I want.

I was happy with three kids. I was done. And then all of that happened. And now I am turned upside down.

I think that having Jack and being happy with where I was at felt like such a nice end. I had my "last" baby and I loved the experience. But now this. THIS is supposed to be the end to this story. The story has already been long and torturous.

Maybe I just need to put some time between another loss and myself and it will all look different. I don't know. I hope so.


Plant Girl 5:59 PM  

Be patient with yourself. 52 days is such a short time, in the grand scheme of things. There are days I still shed tears over the babies I lost and that happened 8 years ago.

I think the short term options are a good place to start until you're more sure. But then I recommend making hubby take the responsibility if you decide to do something permanent. ;)

MaggieL 6:53 PM  

Loving You as you grieve wonderful girl! Allow it to be for now. Short term options OK too as Plant Girl suggests.

Kristen 2:20 PM  

Thanks M and thanks Mae Mae. It's just so hard not to get so wrapped up in all of it. I know I have to be patient...

Kristen 2:20 PM  

Thanks M and thanks Mae Mae. It's just so hard not to get so wrapped up in all of it. I know I have to be patient...



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Over 8 years we have struggled through 3 IUI's, 6 rounds of IVF, several RE's, hundreds of appointments and the loss of three little angels. Now we find ourselves the proud parents of two perfect little girls and a wonderful little boy!!

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