Here's what I do know in the midst of this quagmire we find ourselves stuck in. I hate being in this situation. It's a complete and utter pain in the butt BUT... I can live the rest of my life as the Mom of two little girls (and no more children than that) I can be very happy. Two kids is not what I thought I would end up with in the end but it's enough. If we're lucky enough that more end up in our lives than so be it.
I think the big difference for us is that we have the boys and Genna. It's not like we have two kids... it's like we have five. Our children are not a family of two kids. They each have four siblings to rely on. That makes a huge difference.